Oh the barbell.
Easiest way to feel great – or horrible – about yourself.
The solution: mind your own barbell.
This is something I’ve struggled with / worked on a LOT as an athlete, so please don’t think I’m getting all preachy here. It’s something that competitive, athletic people often deal with, myself included.
When you’re pushing your limits, training hard, and entering into competitions, you inevitably, usually, at some point will stop and compare yourself to others. It’s human nature.
Why is she stronger? Why is he faster? Why haven’t I hit a PR in this workout when everyone else did? See what I mean?
As hard as it is, MYOB(ar).
You’re comparing your performance to someone who’s not you, and a person’s unique mix of circumstances cannot be replicated by you, even if you following the same programming, work out at the same gym, compete in the same weight class, etc.
Your age, years of experience, proportions of different muscle fiber types, ability to recover, diet, sleep, life stress, ability to deal with volume and intensity, are ALL different. Even your ability NOW compared to your ability last month, last year, or five years ago may be different.
So what’s the best way to MYOB? Start keeping a log of YOUR progress. Your best lifts. Your training plan. Your mood. How you feel. It’s the best data you’ve got.
Does this mean you can’t be motivated by others around you? Hell no. It just means to stop and think clearly about stuff when you want to beat yourself up for not measuring up to others.